Unit Plan 4 (Grade 3 Counselor): Kindness and Empathy in Action

Teach Grade 3 empathy with scenarios that help students notice feelings, name needs, choose kind actions, and build classroom belonging.

Unit Plan 4 (Grade 3 Counselor): Kindness and Empathy in Action

Focus: Introduce empathy as noticing how someone may feel and choosing a caring response. The counselor uses realistic Grade 3 situations, such as a classmate being left out of a group, someone being embarrassed after a mistake, or a student feeling nervous before presenting. Students practice identifying the feeling, naming the need, and choosing a kind action that supports belonging.

Grade Level: 3

Subject Area: School Counseling (EmpathyKindnessBelonging)

Total Unit Duration: 1–2 weeks, 30 minutes per session


I. Introduction

This Grade 3 counseling lesson helps students understand empathy as the ability to notice how someone may feel and choose a caring response. Students learn that kindness is more than being polite; it means using words, actions, choices, and attitudes that help classmates feel safe, included, respected, and valued.

Students practice empathy through realistic Grade 3 situations, such as a classmate being left out of a group, someone feeling embarrassed after making a mistake, a student feeling nervous before presenting, or a partner feeling ignored during group work. The counselor helps students identify the feeling, name the need, and choose a kind action that supports classroom belonging.

Essential Questions

  • What does empathy mean?
  • How can students notice how someone else may feel?
  • What kind actions help classmates feel safe, included, respected, and valued?
  • How can words, actions, choices, and attitudes build classroom belonging?

II. Objectives and Standards

Learning Objectives — Students will be able to:

  1. Explain empathy as noticing how someone may feel and choosing a caring response.
  2. Identify possible feelings in realistic Grade 3 situations.
  3. Name possible needs connected to feelings, such as encouragement, inclusion, help, space, fairness, or reassurance.
  4. Choose kind actions that support belonging, respect, inclusion, and trust.
  5. Practice empathy phrases and actions during partner, group, or classroom situations.
  6. (Optional Session) Apply empathy and kindness skills to new scenarios through sorting, role-play, or a classroom belonging challenge.

Standards Alignment — Grade 3 (ASCA-based Custom)

  • C:S3.3a — Show Empathy and Respect for Others
    • Recognize how others may feel and respond with kindness, respect, and care.
    • Example: A student notices a classmate looks left out and says, “Do you want to join our game?”
  • C:S1.3c — Contribute Positively to Classroom and School Belonging
    • Recognize how words, actions, choices, and attitudes can help classmates feel safe, included, respected, and valued.
    • Example: A student invites a classmate into a group project and makes sure everyone has a role.

Success Criteria — Student Language

  • I can explain what empathy means.
  • I can notice how someone might feel.
  • I can name what someone might need.
  • I can choose a kind action that helps someone feel included or respected.
  • I can use words and actions that support classroom belonging.